Retort 30 Apr 2019
When I am hurt by words or actions of someone else, many things happen in a very short time with me. I will feel pain, I may get frightened, I consider defense or revenge. I may respond as a defense or from anger.
I may feel better or worse, ashamed or afraid. Usually I will not feel at ease or peaceful with the other person.
- After hitting the other, I may flee. It is not easy to forget. And the other person as well will not feel better.
- I could apologize. It is however not easy to do so instantly. Neither is it easy to receive the apology immediate. For smaller issues this is a realistic and good option.
- I may say
sorryand ask if we can cool down a few moments and talk about the issues.
- I may return to my opponent later and try to settle.
- Asking God forgiveness. We can always ask. But if we do not settle with our opponent (where possible) then I may not be able to accept or receive God's forgiveness.